As the old saying goes, ‘food, sex, sex’, the important position of sex in life is self-evident.
From the perspective of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs theory, ‘sex’ is at the most basic level of physiological needs, which is no different from food, water, and air. It is the lowest level, but it is also the most basic need. When physiological needs are difficult to meet, people will fall into a situation where they don’t care and just want to survive, and their thinking ability and moral concepts will become obviously fragile. Just imagine, when you are extremely hungry, you will do whatever it takes to grab food. Similarly, when a person’s physiological needs cannot be satisfied for a long time, he or she will use extreme means to try to satisfy his or her needs.
‘Love’ is located at the third level - social needs, also known as emotional and belonging needs. We need care, we need friendship, and we try to prove our sociality by demonstrating some kind of affiliation. It is worth noting that scholars list love and sexual intimacy as tertiary needs, which is something worth thinking about. In other words, the sex here is essentially different from the first-level sex. I prefer to call the first-level sex “sex and reproduction”, while the third-level sex involves complex psychological motivations and social issues. Activity, let’s temporarily call it “sex”.
Love and sex are like black and white, but they are not just black and white, there is a gray area in between.
Sometimes we just stand at the point of love. We have loved and experienced the most beautiful things in the world. What regrets are there?
Sometimes we just stand at the sexual point and enjoy the joy of sex, which is understandable.
Sometimes, if we can stand between love and sex, I love him, he loves me, and we have sex together, everything will be wonderful.
Deep down in your heart, how do you view sex? What kind of fantasies do you have?
If you want to know, test it out.
