‘Isn’t it a form of disrespect to be angry?’ ‘Others will be hurt if they see me angry.’
Have you ever tried to suppress your anger for any of the reasons listed above? Anger is actually a normal psychological defense mechanism. Ignoring or suppressing this emotion for a long time will have a negative impact on our interpersonal relationships and health.
Suppression does not mean eliminating anger
Many people hide their anger mainly because of codependency, fearing that their negative emotions will hurt others and ruin the relationships they have worked hard to build. In addition, the general public has a stereotyped view of anger, emphasizing that anger is a sign of selfishness, pity, and harm to ourselves and others, making it difficult for us to express our anger in front of others without any scruples.
Although it is true that forbearing for a while can avoid conflicts and misunderstandings, accumulating anger to a certain level can still damage physical and mental health. Persistent headaches, rapid heartbeat, and feelings of fear are all signs that the anger level has reached a critical point. At this time, if appropriate channels are not taken to vent, the uncontrollable anger will explode on a more destructive scale.
When you are angry, don’t put out the fire deliberately
When you feel your body telling you that it’s going to explode, try these ways to manage your anger:
1. Re-examine the problem:
Stay away from the source of your anger and allow yourself enough space to calm down, organize your thoughts, adjust your mindset, and come up with solutions. Carefully thinking about the real reasons for your anger and accepting that there are areas that you cannot control are important steps in controlling your anger.
2. Use anger to build trust:
If you find that the problem lies with the other party, remember to convey your position to the other party with a graceful smile and let them realize that their behavior has caused trouble to you. This appropriate way of expression can help us repair the relationship and reconcile. Happy knot.
3. Replace persistence with forgiveness:
Forgiving others does not mean compromising. It means taking into account the other person’s feelings, finding a reasonable reason for their behavior, and allowing the anger to slowly dissipate along with the resentment. Maybe you will find that things are not worth getting angry at, so just let it go.
4. Find a unique way to vent:
The above methods all require time to practice, but in reality some people are often unable to communicate, causing problems to persist. Therefore, it is also important to find an appropriate way to vent! For example: do exercises, take deep breaths, imagine yourself in a relaxing environment (such as the seaside) to divert attention, etc. And if you meet someone who is unreasonable, turn your anger into motivation and try to stay away from them!
In addition to making us aware of our own psychological conditions, anger is also a line of defense when our bottom line is violated, so there is no need to ignore or reject our feelings. Let’s face up to the emotion of anger and the reasons why it appears~
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