Everyone will have a 'lowing period' and you are not alone.
There are always ups and downs in life, and sometimes we will fall into a trough, feeling depressed, helpless, and confused, as if the whole world is stagnant. At such moments, what we need most is not to 'grind our teeth and persevere', but to find some practical and effective methods to help ourselves slowly get out of the quagmire of emotions and regain direction and motivation.
The following 8 highly practical methods are summarized, I hope they can bring you some inspiration and support.
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1. Clean up external interference: from interpersonal, information to consumption
1. Reduce interpersonal relationships and free yourself from social fatigue
When we are at a low point, we often don’t want to socialize, but we are dragged down by interpersonal relationships. What should be done most at this time is to actively reduce some non-essential social interactions:
- Delayed reply information, such as unified processing of half an hour;
- Temporarily cut off responses to other people’s social needs;
- Block or alienate those who make your emotions consume.
This is not about being indifferent, but about making some space for yourself and putting your limited energy into what is really important.
2. Clarify information sources and build an 'emotional firewall' for the brain
The information we receive every day directly affects our emotions. If most of the content you see is gossip, comparison, anxiety, and consumerism, then it is naturally difficult to calm down.
Try to do this:
- Uninstall or exit social apps, groups, and short video platforms that make you feel confused;
- Unlocking information sources that are not conducive to growth and inner stability;
- Give your brain a little quiet and allow yourself to think clearly.
3. Reduce unnecessary consumption and reduce burden on life
Consumption can bring temporary pleasure, but in the long run, it may increase your financial stress and psychological burden. Especially when you are in a low mood, impulsive consumption is often just a disguised expression of 'escaping reality'.
Try these methods:
- If you encounter something you want to buy, you will decide to delay the decision for 3 days;
- Buy only essential items and avoid comparison-oriented consumption;
- Keep a distance from friends or big Vs who advocate 'advanced consumption'.
This kind of self-discipline is actually a kind of 'economic self-protection'.
2. Rebuilding a sense of order: Start with small things around you
4. Organize the environment and let external order repair internal order
A messy environment can make people feel restless. On the contrary, a clean, tidy and organized space will convey a sense of controllability, allowing you to slowly regain the order in your heart.
Do some simple storage, cleaning, and cleaning. Starting from the desktop, bookshelves, and bedrooms, it makes the space refreshing and gives the mood a new starting point.
5. Cultivate hobbies and make interest a source of resilience
During the trough period, interests and hobbies are not 'waste of time', but are a good way to heal and rebuild confidence. Whether it is painting, writing, photography, sports, or music, as long as it is what you like, it is worth doing.
Hobbies can:
- Distract attention and avoid emotional internal friction;
- Let you see that you still have the ability to 'control and create';
- Recognize yourself again in the process and find your sense of value.
3. Appropriately borrowing power: Don’t bear all the burdens alone
6. Seek help from others and make connection a new force
When we are at a low point, we are most likely to fall into the misunderstanding of 'being responsible for everything ourselves'. In fact, it is not embarrassing to seek help properly, but a mature ability.
The key is:
- Express your problems and needs clearly;
- Find professional or resource-based support, such as psychological counseling, partners, etc.;
- Keep a 'rewarding mindset' and don't make people feel like you're consuming them.
Collaboration between people is an important leverage for us to get out of difficulties.
7. Learn to be self-pleasant and re-cultivate inner happiness
Not all happiness depends on external events. People who can make themselves happy often have higher degrees of freedom in emotional management.
You can try these methods:
- Walking, exercising, excursions;
- Read a good book, chat with a wise man, and make a pot of tea;
- Do what you loved when you were a kid.
When you start to 'raising happiness in your own body', the sense of control in life will slowly return.
4. Stop loss in time: Stay away from the trap that makes you sink
8. Avoid bad hobbies and don’t let the emotional black hole swallow you
Some habits of 'short-term pleasure and long-term damage' are precisely the most fatal traps in the trough period. for example:
- Gambling, alcoholism, indulging in pornography, and indulging in sensuality;
- Excessive play, day and night, and overeating.
These behaviors on the surface make you 'forget the pain for the time being', but in fact they will make you fall into a deeper quagmire of emotions and reality. Only by decisively cutting off these paths can we truly stop the decline and rebound.
Conclusion: The trough in life is not the end, but the starting point of restart
These methods don't solve all your problems right away, but they are a 'track to light'. Every little self-organization is a way to pave the way for the future.
Please remember:
'When you stare at the abyss, the abyss is also staring at you. But you will eventually travel through the darkness.' - Nietzsche
You are not alone, nor have you completely failed, but now you need to rest, reorganize, and then set off again.
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