In this complicated world, we often face various challenges and difficulties. How can we maintain our independence and strength? In this article, I will share the following 11 tips that I hope will be helpful to you. - Create a personal coordinate system. We should not be swayed by social perceptions, but should judge and act based on our own intrinsic values. We should rely less on external evaluation and increase trust and affirmation in ourselves. - Control low-level fun. We should not be controlled by low-level tastes, but should pursue higher-level needs and goals. We should improve our focus and self-control through quantitative goals, time management and other methods. - Focus on core issues. We should not be distracted by small kindnesses and sentiments, but should be guided by the personal optimal solution and not be bound by the collective optimal solution. We should break the seal of small kindness and love, and not be moved by this, but focus on solving the core problems. - Avoid the desire to perform. We should not aim at performing to win applause, but should aim at achieving our own long-term accumulation. We should realize that mediocrity is the majority, and their expectations of us are often foolish. We should not indulge in social display, but should focus on our own growth and progress. - Distinguish between means and ends. We should not regard means as ends, but should be oriented towards long-term goals. We should not be limited by a certain environment or a specific method, but should be flexible and find the method that best suits us. - Resist short-term interests. We should not be blinded by short-term gains but should see long-term losses clearly. We should not be too radical and narrow-minded, but calm and broad-minded. We should not covet immediate convenience and happiness, but should consider the future consequences and impact. - Develop critical thinking. We should not be a mob, but should have our own independent thinking and judgment. We should not succumb to consensus just because of security, but should have our own principles and positions. We should not blindly follow the crowd, but break the filter of authority and look for truth and evidence. - Manage Desire. We should not be controlled by desires, but should have our own moderation and balance. We should not let the five colors make people blind, the five tones make people deaf, the five flavors make people feel refreshed, the hunting and hunting make people feel crazy, and the rare goods make people unable to walk. We should not forget human nature and ethics. Without subversive progress, we can still easily become puppets of desire. - Improve metacognitive skills. We should not look at things from the bottom up, but should have diversified perspectives and thinking. We should not be trapped in our own position, but should look at problems from the perspective of enemies, opponents, lovers, superiors, comrades, and passers-by. We should not have cognitive biases but the ability to self-reflect and correct. - Maintain force boundaries. We should not think that we are omnipotent but should know our strengths and weaknesses. We should not distract ourselves with secondary tasks but focus on core tasks. We should not meddle in other people’s affairs, but should keep to ourselves. We should not be a disservice, but a help. - Calculate first and then act. We should not make important decisions lightly but with adequate planning and evaluation. We should not act rashly but should be prepared. We should not leave flaws, but should try to improve them as much as possible. The above are some views on how to become an independent and strong person. I hope it can inspire and help you. Thank you for reading!
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