INFP personality psychological motivations: You are not a 'glass heart', but the world is too noisy (with free MBTI test)

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Want to know yourself better, explore your inner emotions, or find your direction in life? Maybe you are an INFP personality - an idealist, a deep contradiction in your heart.

What is INFP personality?

INFP is a type of MBTI 16 personality , with its full name Introverted – Intuitive – Feeling – Perceived . They usually:

Delicate emotions and empathetic;
Imaginatively live in the inner small universe;
Have obsession with values and hate things that go against your will;
Not good at expressing real emotions and is prone to internal friction.

If you are often tired in social situations, have serious self-questioning, but are full of idealistic fantasies about the world, then you are likely to be an INFP.

If you are not sure about your MBTI personality, the official website of PsycTest Quiz provides you with free MBTI personality tests: MBTI free test portal

You are not lonely, but you are too unique

Many INFPs are actually looking for a ' sense of identity ' when searching for their own MBTI types, because the real world often makes them feel out of place.

Do you think this often:

'Why do I always feel the energy being sucked away in crowded places?'
'I want to express my inner thoughts, but I don't know how to speak.'
'I always think too much, am I sick?'

In fact, these are not 'diseases', but the natural setting of INFP's brain : sensitive to details, fear of conflict, and almost stubborn about sincerity.

Is INFP a pleasing personality? Something, but not exactly.

INFP is prone to falling into 'pleasing mode' in relationships, especially in the following scenarios:

I am afraid that the other party will be disappointed, and I would rather feel wronged by myself;
Not good at refusing, afraid of breaking up relationships;
Even though I know it is unreasonable, I dare not argue.

This is easily misunderstood as 'weakness', but behind it is actually a strong sense of empathy and moral self-discipline .

Solution: Establish a sense of boundaries, practice the right to express 'no', take good care of yourself first, and be able to take care of others.

Further reading: How does INFP stop pleasing others? Guide to flattering personality from the perspective of MBTI personality testing

INFP's social style: gentle, quiet, deep, but afraid of embarrassment

INFP is not good at expressing itself in large groups, but is very sincere and profound in small circles . They prefer:

One-to-one in-depth chat;
Meaningful topics (talk about ideals, values, life);
A quiet and secure environment.

If you feel that you are 'socially terrified', it may not be that you cannot socialize, but that you force yourself to play the role of 'extrovert' in social interaction.

Free psychological test: Social fear and avoidance psychological test | Test your social anxiety and avoidance behavior

INFP is suitable for careers: not to bow down for five dou of rice, but needs to be understood by the world

The working state that INFP fears the most is:

mechanical repetition day after day;
Lack of creativity and humanistic value;
Repressed emotions cannot flow.

INFP career advice (suitable for high internal drive/creative/humanistic orientation):

Psychological counselors and social workers
Writer, editor, content creator
Designer, illustrator, photographer
Teachers (especially literature and art)
UX/UI design, human-computer interaction positions

Not recommended positions (high KPI, high confrontation, high routine):

Sales, finance, management
High voltage Internet post
Fast-paced service industry

Tips : Want to know more clearly where you are suitable for? Try this career planning psychological test >> (Free)

Is INFP easy to internally consume? Yes, very serious

The 'sensibility + idealism' attributes of INFP often make them fall into:

Over-reflection : 'Did I do something wrong?'
Emotional rumination : “Does he hate me?”
Conflict of values : “I don’t want to do this, but I have to do it…”

The solution is not to suppress these ideas, but to learn to ' tune + express + action '.

Recommended tools:

Writing or painting (expressing the heart)
Find a person to talk to (but filter out safe relationships)
Learn some psychological elastic training skills (mindfulness, CBT)

Further reading: INFP always thinks too much about personality? INFP internal friction analysis: Your idealism may be dragging you down

INFP's love: sincerity, slow warmth, rather than lack of anything

INFP's love is like a long-distance run of the soul:

It is slow to warm up, affectionate, and once it is determined, it is difficult to let go;
It is easy to be deceived by surface disguise, but has radar in its heart;
Desire for deep connections and do not like shallow interactions.

But because it is too idealistic, it is often:

'Deification' of your partner leads to too big a gap in reality;
Treat the other person's emotions as your own responsibility;
Escape, remain silent when encountering conflicts, and do not express.

Further reading: A complete analysis of the love characteristics of INFP personality: Idealists' heart-warming signals and secret love strategies

Why does INFP like to do psychological tests?

In fact, many people themselves do not realize the psychological motivation behind this:

Motivation	Psychology behind it
Self-exploration	Want to know 'Who am I?'
Emotional confusion	There are often emotional fluctuations, I want to find the reason
Seek resonance	Hope to find someone who is 'like me'
Anxiety Control	Hope to create a sense of stability with the help of labels
Career confusion	Find a more suitable work direction
Social discomfort	Want to know why interpersonal relationships are so difficult
Social Sharing	Send the test results to a friend 'Hahaha'

Therefore, doing psychological tests itself is a gentle way of self-care . If you also have this kind of impulse, please don’t blame yourself or doubt yourself. It’s just that you are calling for help in your heart and want to know yourself better.