Five characteristics of college students’ love
1. Follow blindly
In fact, we will find that some of the love relationships in college are also based on following the trend, especially when friends around you are in love, you think you can’t stand out, so you start a relationship hastily.
This situation is quite common, and you can also find that when more than half of the people in a dormitory are in love, the remaining few will soon start their own love journey.
These are people who follow the crowd and force themselves to fall in love. Their original intention in falling in love is not to be happy with each other, but to follow blindly. Can such a relationship last long?
2. Pay attention to the process of falling in love
Why do many college students fall in love in college? Some meet someone who makes their heart beat, and some just let themselves enjoy the process of falling in love.
When many contemporary college students fall in love, they mostly let themselves enjoy the process of falling in love and the happiness that love brings to them. However, they are very indifferent to the results of love. They think that falling in love is just about talking. That’s it, break up if you don’t like each other anymore.
A survey shows that 20% of students think that the reason why they fall in love in college is to have love experience in the future. They do not regard falling in love during college as a responsibility.
3. Luxurious love
Nowadays, college love is common, but there are also many students who regard college love as a platform for mutual comparison. Classmates compare with each other. When couples go out to play together, the places they play and the gifts they give are regarded as To show off by comparison.
They don’t think there’s anything wrong with this kind of behavior, and they don’t think there’s anything wrong with using their parents’ living expenses to show off, because they are used to this kind of atmosphere, and they all regard love as a thing. A kind of bragging rights.
4. Premature cohabitation
Many times we will find that once college students fall in love, the dormitory becomes a place for them to take a nap, and they will rent a house outside.
In fact, this kind of behavior is bad, and premature cohabitation is very detrimental to girls. When we enter college, what is the most important thing? It must be learning, but if college students live together too early, then they will spend more time on each other, which will lead to a decline in academic performance or conflicts with classmates. The alienation of the relationship, and more seriously, the premature cohabitation made the girl pregnant and had to undergo an abortion, which had a great impact on her future life.
5. There is an increasing trend of younger age and openness.
Now we will find that we, who have just started our freshman year, have already started to fall in love within a few days.
When I first entered college, I fell in love, and there was a trend of younger people falling in love. Another obvious feature is that couples are open to the public. In the past, people said that love should be reserved, but now on campus we will find many couples holding hands, hugging or kissing each other.
Nowadays, college students’ love is completely open and they are no longer shy about outsiders.
Cultivating a correct view of love
The concept of love refers to people’s fundamental views and opinions on love, which directly affects their behavior in the process of love. So how should college students develop a good outlook on love?
From the perspective of college students themselves, they should do the following:
First, correct the position of love in life. Falling in love is only part of life, not everything. It is just a note in many life movements such as ideals, career, studies, family ties, friendships, etc. Romantic love is indeed very desirable, but it would be a pity to put all your energy on love, and it would also be irresponsible to yourself, your family, and society.
Second, you must be good at controlling your emotions. College is the most wonderful chapter in life, and love is one of the brightest colors in this beautiful chapter. I am very lucky to have a true love in college. However, because college students’ social experience is still shallow and their psychology is not mature enough, they often do not know what true love is. At this time, they cannot control their feelings well and spend their precious time on false love. Some college students cannot control their emotions well when they are in love and engage in premarital sex, which ultimately leads to adverse consequences. Love is not only passionate, but also requires reason.
Third, cultivate civilized love behavior. Love is noble and does not need to be secretive. But love is also a matter between two people, and hugging each other in public is inappropriate. Love that is reserved, humble, or even shy is more flavorful and attractive.
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