The emotional intelligence we often talk about actually refers to emotional intelligence. Does it only refer to the ability to control emotions? What psychological traits do people with high emotional intelligence have? Is emotional intelligence innate or cultivated?
What is emotional intelligence?
First of all, from the perspective of emotional intelligence, emotions are not messy, nor are they opposed to rationality. They actually help us regulate the environment. Emotions are beneficial to concentration, memory, learning, social interaction, decision-making, etc. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to reason and think about emotions and emotional information. It is generally believed that people with high emotional intelligence can handle emotion-related issues more accurately and effectively, such as identifying the emotions conveyed by expressions and the meaning behind the emotions (such as understanding that the other person wants to be alone when they are sad), and being able to better manage themselves and the emotions of others.
What psychological traits do people with high emotional intelligence have?
The Mayer-Salovey-Caruso (MSC) model is one of the common methods used to break down emotional intelligence. This model points out that people with higher emotional intelligence will have the following four traits:
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Perceiving Emotions: Identifying emotions in oneself, others, and even in objects (such as portraits)
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Facilitating Thoughts: Use emotions to promote thinking, for example, be aware of which emotion helps to deal with a certain problem, and can produce that emotion
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Understanding Emotions: Understand how different emotions arise and change over time, and understand complex emotions
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Managing Emotions: Effectively manage your own emotions (e.g., stress management) and the emotions of others (e.g., calm down an angry friend)
How can you improve emotional intelligence?
It is true that some studies have pointed out that people with certain personalities (such as extroversion) usually have higher emotional intelligence, but this does not mean that people who do not have these personalities cannot have high emotional intelligence. If you want to improve your emotional intelligence, the following are two An exercise you can refer to:
- Emotional awareness: Mood Meter
The following two simple questions: ‘How powerful is this emotion?’ and ‘How pleasant is this emotion?’ can effectively help you identify your emotions. Emotions can be pleasant and high energy (joy, excitement), unpleasant and high energy (anger), pleasant but low energy (calm, contented), unpleasant and low energy (depression, sadness).
- Understand emotions: “Why do I have these emotions?”
To know why we have certain emotions, we need to ask ourselves some more specific questions to find out the reasons, such as: ‘What just happened? What was I doing before and after it happened?’, ‘The person who made me angry/sad What did I do in the past that caused me to feel this way?”, “What situation/person/place does this feeling remind me of?” Even though it’s the same emotion, understanding the different causes behind it allows us to better cope with it in different ways.
The so-called high emotional intelligence does not mean how well you can hold your temper. When faced with unhappiness, people with truly high emotional intelligence will not only face their emotions, but also express their negative emotions in a way that is least harmful to themselves and others~
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