As an ISFJ personality (guardian type) in MBTI, are you often labeled with these tags: 'Haohao Mr./Haohao Miss', 'The most reliable person', 'Extremely thoughtful'... You are used to taking care of other people's feelings, taking responsibility, and taking everything silently. It is the 'stabilizing needle' in the team and family.
But at the same time, you may also encounter these small problems:
- It is clearly put in a lot of money, but it is considered 'justified';
- I often worry about others, but I end up ignoring myself;
- Being too low-key has caused both leaders and friends to not notice your value...
In fact, you don’t need to change your gentle and down-to-earth nature . As long as you master some small skills, you can let everyone truly see you, appreciate you, and respect you.
Next, we have compiled 10 practical skills for 'winning respect' for you, and you can also get better responses in the way you are good at.
1. 10 “respected” methods that ISFJ must learn
1. It’s right to respect elders, but don’t suppress your voice
ISFJ respects tradition and family rules very much. Listen carefully to elders when they speak, and do the tasks assigned by their leaders seriously. But this also makes you develop a 'obedient and do whatever you want' model, and even if you have a better idea in your heart, you are embarrassed to say it out loud.
Suggested recipe: If your mother asks you to cook with the old method, you might as well say, 'Mom, I have recently studied a new recipe, which is very fragrant. Do you want to try it?' It not only retains respect for her, but also expresses your thoughts.
2. Transform your “life skills” into influence
ISFJs are usually very good at practical skills such as cooking, managing finances, using Excel, but you always feel that 'this is nothing special.' In fact, others may not know, so it is better to share it with it on your own initiative.
For example: a colleague said that it is too troublesome to make a watch. You can say, 'I have thought about this. I have compiled a shortcut key tip. Do you want to try it?' It not only helps, but also makes people admire you.
3. Don't take everything silently in your family
Are you the one in your family who 'does things silently and doesn't complain'? Cleaning, taking care of children, arranging life... I did everything, but no one realized how hard you worked.
Practical advice: When eating, say easily: 'I have too many housework every week. I want everyone to divide the work together. I will cook and you guys organize it.' Naturally, let others participate, and you can win more respect.
4. Don’t be a “behind the scenes” at work
You may be used to making up for team problems quietly, but your colleagues are praised but no one mentions you. ISFJs often do not compete or compete, but it does not mean that they cannot show results.
Efficient expression: In the meeting, you can say this: 'I am responsible for data processing in this project. This time I optimized the statistical method and the error control is more accurate.' It is short but powerful, and allows people to know your professional value.
5. Self-discipline is not sacrificing oneself
ISFJ is strict with itself, get up early and arrange every little thing. But sometimes, you will also make yourself too tired to maintain a 'reliable image'.
Suggestion: Occasionally you can say to your friends: 'I am so tired today, so I will give myself a half-day vacation.' You are more real, and others will be closer to you.
6. Don’t be a “rude boss”
You are very law-abiding and can't stand the fact that you are going to go to the line, be late, or shirk responsibility, but you are afraid of offending others and often choose to remain silent.
High emotional intelligence processing: If someone goes to the line, you can whisper to the person behind you: 'There are so many people today, thank you for your hard work.' Others will naturally understand your position and will not hurt the harmony.
7. Saying the credit is not to show off, but to be fair
ISFJ likes to give credit to the team, but being too low-key is easy to miss opportunities.
Practice suggestions: When writing a work summary, clearly state: 'I have led the optimization of customer feedback process and saved 20% of communication costs.' Let the superiors see that you are a valuable core role.
8. Don’t just mediate conflicts, but also take care of your own feelings
You may often be a 'peacemaker'. When your friends quarrel, they will immediately persuade them to fight, but they will end up being caught in the middle and feeling uncomfortable.
Coping method: You can say neutrally first: 'Don't be excited, take a break.' After the atmosphere eases, then enlighten both sides separately to ease the conflict and protect yourself.
9. Let your efforts be seen
You may be learning new skills every day, but never show off. Over time, others don’t even know that you have made a lot of progress.
Suggested practice: Occasionally share it on WeChat Moments: 'I have been learning PPT recently, and this animation function is so useful!' It not only helps record, but also allows more people to see your growth.
10. Doing good things does not have to be hidden
You may have been silently doing charity, helping your neighbors, and never promoting it, but no one has realized your kindness and dedication.
Suggested method: You can post a news saying: 'Today I helped the elderly neighbor pick up the express delivery, and chatted for a while, and it felt very warm.' It not only conveys positive energy, but also enhances your social influence.
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Summary: ISFJ should learn to 'let people see your goodness'
The advantages of ISFJ's personality lies in stability, reliability, care and responsibility. But if you want to be recognized, you not only work hard and work silently, but also know how to express your contributions and express your needs at the right time.
You don’t need to change your gentle and considerate personality. As long as you know how to let yourself be seen at critical moments , you will find that winning respect can actually be very gentle.
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