You are the ESFJ personality in MBTI , which is what everyone calls 'heart-hearted organizer'. Born to take care of people, be worried, and be good at teamwork, these characteristics make you very popular in your circle of friends and work. But sometimes we can encounter embarrassment: for example, to make everyone happy, they are wronged to do things they don’t like; or to act too much according to the rules and be said to be “old and stubborn”. In fact, it is very simple to win respect. There is no need to change your personality. Just learn to 'show off' your strengths and make up for your shortcomings at the same time!
10 Must-see “Respected” Tips for ESFJ
1. Respect elders and leaders: Don’t just say “yes, yes”
You are born to understand the worldly ways. When you meet your elders, you will take the initiative to say hello and complete the things assigned by your leaders seriously. But sometimes I am too afraid to offend people and dare not say anything even if I have good ideas.
Practical tricks : For example, there are loopholes in the tasks assigned by the leader. You can say: 'I tried Method A for a similar project last time, and the efficiency has been improved by 20%. Do you think you want to refer to this time?' It not only respects authority, but also shows ability.
2. Knowledge monetization: Don’t be a good old man who “studysfunctionally”
You like to learn practical skills (such as cooking and Excel skills), but you are prone to ignore theoretical knowledge. In fact, you can share your 'life wisdom':
Example : After you have learned time management, don’t just use it yourself. Send a tutorial in the department group: 'I use these 3 forms to manage housework and work, and it is effective for personal tests!' Colleagues will think you are both powerful and willing to help others.
3. Don’t be an “invisible nanny” in your family
You keep your home in an orderly manner and buy things for your parents more carefully than anyone else, but you may not say anything if you are so tired.
Smart practice : Organize a family meeting on weekends and say, 'I'm too tired to clean 5 hours a week, let's divide the work!' Then arrange small tasks for everyone. Family members will cherish your efforts more and respect your boundaries.
4. Don’t be a “universal patch” at work
When a colleague asks you for help, you always say 'OK', but you end up working overtime until you collapse.
Key points : Learn to say 'It's really not possible this time.' For example: 'I will hand over the report I have tomorrow. Why don't you try XX method first? If not, I will help you read it for 10 minutes after get off work?' It is not hurtful, but also keeps the bottom line.
5. Self-discipline is not the 'ascetic' model
You get up early every day to make breakfast and keep a diary, which is admirable for self-discipline, but you may suppress your emotions in order to maintain a 'perfect image'.
Small change : Occasionally post on Moments: 'I didn't get up early today, I slept in and it's great!' Others will think you are real, but instead like you more.
6. Don't be a moral model for 'old antiques'
You can't stand the behavior of jumping in line and speaking swearing, but directly criticizing can easily offend people.
High EQ approach : When you see someone jumping in line, you smile at the people behind you: 'There are so many people now. Do you want to stand forward?' This reminds the people who jump in line, but is not embarrassed.
7. Being low-key does not mean “hiding credit”
You helped the team win big projects, but you pushed all the credit to others, and you ended up not being promoted.
What to do : When reporting, he said: 'Thanks to everyone's cooperation this time, I am mainly responsible for customer communication and plan adjustments. The XX section uses new methods, and the effect is not bad.' It is not only not to seize the credit, but also let the leader know your contribution.
8. Don't be a 'peacemaker soft persimmon'
When a friend quarrels, you are busy trying to persuade him to make peace, but you are sulking.
Correct operation : First say, 'You both make sense, drink a little water and calm down.' When their emotions ease, then say, 'Actually, he is worried about you...' It not only solves the problem, but also does not let yourself be wronged.
9. Don’t just rely on “communicating circles” when growing up
You love to attend various parties and study groups, but sometimes you just join in the fun.
Effective growth : Join a professional group, actively share industry information once a week, or initiate online discussions. Others will think that you are a person with 'dones' and naturally respect you.
10. Don’t be a “behind the scenes tool” when doing charity
You silently donate supplies to the community and help your neighbors take care of their children, but no one knows.
Skills for showing presence : Take a short video: 'Today I helped Grandma Zhang move the express delivery, and she said she wanted to treat me to dumplings!' With a smile. Your neighbors will think you are enthusiastic and cute, and will help you with something next time you have something to do.
Ending: ESFJ's 'Respected' secret
Remember, ESFJ's biggest advantage is 'warm' and 'reliable', but you must learn to 'show' these two points. If you want to know your personality better, you can go to PsycTest Quiz official website (psychtest.cn) to do a free MBTI test to see what your hidden advantages lies. If you want to deeply analyze career planning and interpersonal relationships, you can also upgrade to the premium version, and the suggestions in it are more specific!
In fact, winning respect is simple: be enthusiastic when you should help, be decisive when you should refuse, and don’t be low-key when you should show. You are great, and as long as you let everyone see your goodness, you will naturally respect you!
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