Social networking is an integral part of our lives and work, it can bring us opportunities, resources, friendship and happiness. However, social interaction is also an art, and we need to master some basic rules and skills in order to avoid unnecessary troubles and conflicts and enhance our influence and charm. In this article, I will share with you 10 top rules in social networking, hoping to inspire and help you.
**First, low-level people cater to needs, and high-level people create needs. **
In the game of interpersonal relationships, we must learn to take the initiative instead of reacting passively. Low-level people always try to meet the needs of others in order to gain others’ approval and favor. However, doing so often puts you in a passive and subordinate position and loses your own opinion and personality. High-level people are different. They know how to create needs and guide others’ expectations and behaviors. They establish their authority and influence by attracting the attention and respect of others through their values, ideas, skills and tastes.
**Second, no one likes a truly weak person. Being strong is the underlying logic of human nature. **
There is no absolute fairness and sympathy in this world, only relative interests and competition. If you always show your weakness and incompetence, it will be difficult for you to gain the respect and trust of others, and you may even attract contempt and bullying from others. On the contrary, if you can show your strength and excellence, then you will win the admiration and support of others, and even attract the admiration and following of others. This is because admiring strength is the underlying logic of human nature. People always tend to associate with the strong rather than with the weak.
**Third, don’t ask for affection from friends who care about interests, and don’t ask for benefits from friends who care about feelings. **
In social interaction, we need to understand that there are different rules of association between different types of friends. Some friends are made based on interests, and their relationship is mainly maintained through mutual benefit. This kind of friendship does not require too much emotional investment, and do not expect too much emotional return. Some friends are made based on feelings, and their relationship is mainly maintained through common interests, hobbies, and values. There needs to be enough trust, understanding, support and tolerance between such friends. If we treat friends who are concerned with interests as friends who are concerned with feelings, or treat friends who are concerned with feelings as friends who are concerned with interests, then we will bring a lot of troubles and conflicts to ourselves and the other party.
**Fourth, a friend who cares about interests will talk about his deeds but not his heart, while a friend who cares about sincerity will talk about his heart but not his deeds. **
In social interaction, we must learn to evaluate and praise different types of friends in the correct way. For friends who are interested in interests, we must judge their deeds and ignore their intentions, that is, we must give recognition and encouragement based on their behaviors and achievements, without touching too much on their hearts and motives. This can avoid touching their sensitivity and privacy, and can also increase their confidence and motivation. For friends who are sincerely concerned, we must understand and support them based on their intentions and sincerity, rather than paying too much attention to their performance and results. This can enhance their trust and affection, and also reduce their stress and burden.
**Fifth, quarreling and falling out are applicable to situations where strangers meet at one time. Don’t quarrel with acquaintances, just stay away if you don’t like it. **
In social interactions, we must learn to control our emotions and avoid unnecessary disputes and conflicts. If we meet some strangers or people we meet once, and they are offended or disrespectful to us, we can choose to quarrel or fall out with them to safeguard our dignity and interests. However, if we meet some acquaintances or people we have been with for a long time, and they misunderstand or are dissatisfied with us, we should not quarrel or fall out with them, because this will hurt each other’s relationships and feelings. We should choose to communicate with them or tolerate them to maintain our own cultivation and tolerance. If we really dislike or cannot tolerate the words and deeds of certain people, we should choose to keep a distance from them or cut off contact with them to protect our own souls and health.
**Sixth, there are two kinds of people who are fearless: too ignorant or too sober. **
In social interaction, we must learn to face our own fears and bravely pursue our goals and ideals. There are two types of people who are fearless: one is those who are too ignorant. They don’t know what kind of risks and challenges they face, so they dare to take risks and try. The other type is people who are too sober. They know what risks and challenges they face, but they also know what abilities and resources they have, so they dare to deal with them and solve them. Most people are somewhere in between: a certain amount of knowledge and experience, but also a certain amount of fear and concern. At this time, we must adjust our mentality and strategies, maintain a certain degree of caution and preparation, and maintain a certain degree of courage and confidence.
**Seventh, talking but not doing is much worse than not talking and not doing, because the latter is just inaction, while the former is nothing but nothing. **
In social interaction, we must learn to be consistent in our words and deeds, and fulfill our commitments and responsibilities. If we only talk but do not act, we will lose the trust and respect of others, and even attract the disgust and disgust of others. Because all talk but no action is much worse than no talk but no action. The latter only shows one’s laziness and incompetence, while the former shows one’s hypocrisy and greed. Therefore, we must be a person who keeps our word, and do not make promises easily, but once made, we must resolutely implement them, so as to win the trust and respect of others.
**Eighth, you must have a sense of ownership of yourself and be in control of the plot of your life at any time, rather than leaving it to others. **
In social interaction, we must learn to take responsibility for ourselves instead of relying on or blaming others. Taking ownership of ourselves means recognizing our own goals and desires, formulating our own plans and actions, and taking our own risks and consequences. We cannot leave our lives to others to arrange or interfere, nor can we blame our failures on others or the environment. We must control the plot direction of our own lives at all times, instead of passively accepting or resisting other people’s arrangements or influences.
**Ninth, don’t be an audience in other people’s lives, because attention is a kind of energy. Whoever you pay attention to, you give energy to. The energy should be given to yourself and not to others. **
In social interaction, we must learn to focus on our own lives instead of paying too much attention to other people’s lives. Don’t be an audience of other people’s lives, because it will waste our time and energy, and it will also affect our mentality and emotions. We should shift our focus to ourselves and provide ourselves with more energy and motivation. Energy should be given to ourselves rather than to others, because only in this way can we be more active and proactive in creating and enjoying our own lives.
**Tenth, talk to people when you see them, but don’t talk to ghosts. **
In social interaction, we must learn to adapt to different situations and objects, and speak appropriate words and attitudes. Speaking to others when meeting others means that we should respect others’ identities and positions, and communicate with them in a polite and friendly tone. Saying nothing means that we should avoid arguing or arguing with those who are unreasonable, malicious, and unreasonable. Because this will only lower our level and taste, and also get us into unnecessary disputes and troubles. Instead of wasting your breath and energy arguing with them, stay silent and calmly leave.
The above are the 10 top rules in social networking. I hope it can inspire and help you.
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