At certain times of the year, such as New Year’s Eve, checking bank balances or having a physical examination, there will be an urge to revolutionize, but there may not be the determination to burn the boat. If you don’t want your Wish List to go to waste every time, why not take a look at how to overcome the “hard starting point” problem!
How much motivation do we need to change?
How can we make changes without motivation? If you find that you always give up halfway, you can first examine your motivation for taking action. First, you can think of a change you want to make in your mind, and then simply ask yourself: On a scale of 0-10 (10 being the most important), how important is this change to you?
If the answer is not 0 points, congratulations! Because at this time you need to think about why you did not give 0 points, and list the reasons one by one.
Then, think about what your life would be like if you achieved your goals. Take a picture of it! Click! Now compare this photo with the current situation. What is the difference? If nothing changes, what will the future be like?
🌟 Such a comparison allows us to see the importance of change more concretely. Let us save this beautiful vision!
What other factors affect our ability to achieve our goals?
In addition, motivation can also be explained by the ‘Self-Determination Theory’ proposed by psychologists Leci and Ryan. If a person’s goal meets the following three conditions, he will have greater autonomous motivation to complete the goal:
➡ Autonomy: Does this goal come from within and not be influenced by others?
➡ Competency: Do you have enough ability or methods to achieve your goals?
➡Relatedness: Does anyone support you in accomplishing this goal? Does this behavior create opportunities for interaction with other people?
Finally, you need a little strategy
You know, even if we have the intention to change, there is still a distance between us and the implementation of the action.
It can be seen from the above theory that one’s own abilities/methods and the support of others are important fuels for action. Therefore, we can first imagine if we want to change, what are the specific and feasible methods? If you don’t have a way at this moment, what channels can you use to get it? In addition to yourself, others can also be your support. Who can be your cheerleader? You might as well share your plan with him and let him give his opinions!
Finally, as the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning. If you set up a first baby step that is easier to take, you can create a series of changes that follow.
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