In many countries, Mother's Day is on this Sunday. If you believe in the ads, it means you'd better buy your mom roses and jewelry—and maybe even a new car if you can do it.
So, what is the best gift for Mother's Day? It depends on your mom's personality type. A mom with a diplomatic personality might like a meaningful note, while a mom with a guardian might prefer a practical gift, such as a handbag that reminds her of your thoughts.
When it comes to expressing love, we all have different preferences. Some of us are more than happy to announce how we feel (on giant screens if possible), while others of us find it more natural to do the act of service, make handmade items, or even write a heartfelt note. The good news is that there is no wrong way to express gratitude for the image of mothers in our lives.
Sometimes, we may need to step out of our comfort zone a little bit. By considering your mother’s personality type, you can turn this Mother’s Day into an opportunity to share your love in a way that truly resonates with her.
And that doesn't mean you have to buy her a new car - we promise.
Analyst mother
If you have a mother with an analyst personality (INTJ/INTP/ENTP/ENTJ), she may act as if she doesn't care about Mother's Day—she really may not care.
An analyst personality is the type of personality that is least likely to make a fuss about special occasions, whether it is going out for dinner, dressing up, or giving gifts.
But this doesn't mean that analyst mothers won't like special treatment. Here are some tips:
- Use the act of service as a gift. This could mean helping the family maintain, cook, or dealing with chores that she doesn't like. This kind of gift of practical nature makes sense to her and she will be grateful for helping her relieve the burden.
- Leave time to have high-quality conversations. Read some long articles in advance to create material for a vivid discussion. (If you know a topic that she is particularly interested in, then you'll get a bonus.)
The study found that up to 93% of individuals who have been criminalized prefer in-depth conversations over small talk. So, put down your phone and focus on this conversation.
If you want, you can write a message on the greeting card listing the things you appreciate and admire her. Analysts may shy away from public emotional expressions, but 83% prefer to accept praise. Solution: Seal the card in an envelope and let her own time read. She may or may not mention the card, let alone save it, but at least you've shared your feelings-and who knows, she might be moved.
Diplomatic mother
Diplomatic personality includes: INFJ/INFP/ENFJ/ENFP
“You don’t need to do anything for Mother’s Day, dear,” your diplomatic mother might tell you. Don't pay attention to this.
People with diplomatic personality like to give gifts, more than any other type, and although they may not show it, they usually feel hurt when others don’t reward them. That is, when it comes to gifts, many diplomatic individuals have as much fun sharing experiences with their loved ones as they unpack gorgeous gifts.
So, how do you express your concern to a diplomatic mother? Here are some ideas:
- Love expressed verbally is of great significance to the diplomatic personality. Write a long, heartfelt message on the greeting card, or—better yet—hall a conversation about how much you love and appreciate her.
- Many diplomatic individuals prefer handmade or personal gifts over the most luxurious items. So, instead of swiping cards in the mall, make a custom herbal tea mixture, draw a picture, or make a special playlist.
- Support your mother's interests and passions. If she likes plants, do gardening with her. If she likes drama, take her to the lunch scene.
- If in doubt, create an opportunity to spend quality time together. It can be as easy as bringing a batch of cookies and chatting on the couch. Let me say it again: put your phone far away.
Guardian mother
Guardian personality includes: ISTJ/ISFJ/ESTJ/ESFJ
For people with a guardian personality, family is important. More than any other personality type, the Guardian says the most important factor in determining their happiness is their family and friends.
The result is: If you have a Guardian mother, treat Mother's Day as a day with her and other family members—or, if you don't live within a distance you can visit, schedule at least one phone or video call.
Here are other suggestions for expressing love to the mother of the Guardian:
- Guardian mothers usually like specific gifts, such as greeting cards and gifts. (If you wrap your gifts beautifully, you'll get a bonus.)
- Create a tradition or maintain an old tradition. This could mean sending her breakfast to bed, having a family party, traveling to a local garden or park, or looking at old family photos together.
It is absolutely OK to choose a family-based activity. Of all personality types, the Guardian personality is most interested in spending time at home.
No matter what you do together, treat it as an important event: Don’t wear scruffy clothes—you guessed it right—don’t lower your head and play with your phone.
Explorer-type mother
Explorer personality includes: ISTP/ISFP/ESTP/ESFP
For explorer-type mothers, Mother's Day—like any other day—is an opportunity for new experiences and pleasures. In other words, she may not want to go to the same brunch location you visited last year, and staying at home may not be her dish.
So, how do you make Mother's Day fun and memorable for the explorer type? Please continue reading:
- Unless you know what she really wants, focus on the experience rather than the item as a gift.
- Plan a trip, but don't tell her where to go. Ask her to clean up her schedule in the morning, afternoon or evening and tell her you will handle the rest. Explorers are more willing to follow other people’s plans than others in their personality types than to make their own plans.
- Take her to a place she has never been. This could mean taking her to a yoga or dance class, trying to try a new food in a nearby town or city, or renting a kayak and paddling on a river or lake together.
Summarize
To be honest: No matter how happy the family looks on commercials and TV shows, Mother's Day is not always a festival of sunshine and roses. Even on this day dedicated to celebrating mothers and their contributions, old patterns and arguments may emerge among family members. Despite our best efforts, the day may not be perfect.
So what can you do? Here is our best advice: Understand your mother’s personality type and express your love on Mother’s Day in a way she can feel and appreciate. In addition to resolving old tensions, this approach also has the potential to create new connections and understanding patterns. So, plan any experience or gift around what makes sense to her, even if it takes you out of your comfort zone. The result may be the most memorable Mother's Day she's ever experienced in years.
Do you have any good gift ideas for your mother’s personality type? Share your suggestions in the comments below!
Not sure what your mother’s personality type is? You can try to encourage her to take our free MBTI personality test .
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