You are the INTJ personality in the MBTI type sixteen personality, which is the legendary 'cold planner'. My mind is fast, I love to think about the big principles, and I plan my things to the core. But sometimes you will also encounter troubles: for example, when chatting with someone, the other party says, 'Can you stop being reasonable?' or do a lot of things silently, but no one knows your goodness.
In fact, it is very simple for INTJ to win respect. You don’t need to become a social expert. Just use your “smart energy” right and add a little “human fireworks”!
1. 10 'respected' techniques that INTJ must see
1. Facing elder leaders: Don’t just be reasonable, you should be able to “propose suggestions on the curve”
You know in your heart who has the real ability and actually respects experienced people, but you may be too direct in your mouth. For example, if there is a loophole in the leadership plan, if you say 'the logic here is wrong', the other party may be unhappy.
Practical trick : Change it to 'This plan reminds me of a similar project before. I tried A method A and the effect is good. Do you think you want to refer to it?' First recognize the other party, and then speak with facts. It is both professional and not hurtful.
2. Don’t keep your knowledge: Don’t be a “cold academic master”, knowledge must be implemented
You like to chew advanced theories, but ordinary people don’t understand them. In fact, you can turn your 'knowledge treasure' into practical practical things:
Example : If you have studied psychology, don’t just take notes and post a small insight on your circle of friends: “It turns out that when you quarrel with someone, you can first say 'I understand you' to calm the other person, and it is effective for personal tests!” Others will think you are powerful and down-to-earth.
3. Don’t be an “invisible planner” in your family
You may have already thought of a long-term plan for buying a house and educating your family, but you never said it. My parents thought you were 'not in the world'.
Smart practice : When holding a family meeting, say: 'I have sorted out our family's saving plan for the next 5 years. Let's see where to adjust it?' If you spread your plan, your family will think you are reliable and considerate.
4. Don’t be a “lone man” at work
You are used to doing everything by yourself, but your colleagues may think that you are 'cold and hard to cooperate'.
Key points : The project has reached a critical node and actively send a message: 'I just built the framework of the plan. Everyone is welcome to give their opinions. Come and meet for 10 minutes at 10 o'clock tomorrow morning?' Let others see your efforts and feel respected.
5. Self-discipline is not an obsessive-compulsive disorder
You study for 2 hours a day without any movement, which is terrible, but occasionally you will be said to be 'too serious'.
Small change : Occasionally share your 'moment of failure': 'I didn't complete the plan today, I relaxed after watching a movie, and the charging was successful!' Others will think you are real, but they are more willing to get close to you.
6. Don’t be a “moral model” and learn to “flexibly adhere to principles”
You can't stand walking in the back door and telling lies, but criticizing directly can easily offend people.
High emotional intelligence practice : Colleagues take shortcuts when looking for relationships. You can say: 'It is convenient for short-term, but it may affect word of mouth in the long term. Do you want to think about it again?' Not only express your position, but also give face to the other party.
7. Keep a low profile and don’t go too far: Don’t be polite when it’s time to show results
You help the team win big projects, but you blame others for their contributions, and you won’t get any promotion.
What to do : When reporting, he said: 'Thanks to the cooperation of the team this time, I was mainly responsible for the strategic design of key links and used new methods to increase efficiency by 30%. 'Don't seize the credit, but let the leaders know your value.
8. Don’t be “logical weird”, “receive emotions” first when quarreling
My friend complained to you, but you began to analyze right or wrong: 'I think you have a problem too...' The other party was instantly furious.
Correct operation : First say, 'I will be angry if I do this, it will be so frustrating!' When the other party's mood eases, then ask, 'Do you want to think about how to solve it together?' This not only comforts people, but also solves the problem.
9. Don’t just rely on “reading books” when growing up, try “heart-wrenching experience”
You have read a bunch of self-improvement books, but you may not have tried something that is truly 'heart-written', such as meditation and charity.
Effective growth : Participate in an offline reading party, actively share your views, or go to a nursing home to chat with the elderly. These experiences can make you understand human nature better, and others will think you are 'deep and humane'.
10. Don’t be a “behind the scenes” when doing charity
You silently proposed a bunch of improvement plans for the community, but no one knew it was you who did it.
Skills for showing presence : Put your plan into pictures and texts and post it in the owner group: 'Try to draw a picture of the greening and renovation of the community. Do you think it is feasible?' With your thinking process, your neighbors will think you are powerful and enthusiastic.
2. Test your social blind spots and tendencies to please
Although INTJ seems to be 'disdainful of pleasing others', in some relationships, hidden pleasing personality traits such as excessive self-discipline, suppression of emotions, and sacrificing self-needs. We recommend you try the following psychological tests to better understand your subconscious behavior:
- Test of flattery personality tendency: What type of 'good person' are you?
- Self-test of flattery personality: Test your flattery health index (30 questions)
- Are you a pleasing personality? 26 questions to test your true personality!
These tests can help you identify whether you are overly depressed, pursue a sense of control, avoid conflicts, and make conscious adjustments.
3. Ending: INTJ's 'Respected' secret
Remember, the biggest advantage of INTJ is that it is 'smart and planned', but you must learn to 'translate' these advantages into languages that others can understand. If you want to know your personality better, you can go to PsycTest Quiz official website (psychtest.cn) to do a free MBTI test to see where your hidden skills are. If you want to deeply analyze the workplace and interpersonal relationships, you can also upgrade to MBTI's advanced personality profile , with the suggestions in it being more specific and higher-level.
In fact, it is very simple to win respect: when it is reasonable, when it is logical, when it is emotional, when it is cold, and when it is displayed, don’t hide it. You are already very powerful. As long as you see you who are 'smart and warm', you will naturally respect you!
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