A wedding is one of the most important moments in life and the highest commitment to love. But, did you know that your wedding choices, such as the number of guests, the value of your engagement ring, whether to go on a honeymoon, etc., may affect the quality of your marriage? This article will reveal some scientific findings for you, so that you can make more informed decisions when planning your wedding, and make your marriage longer and happier!
The relationship between wedding choice and marriage quality In the Netherlands, more than 70% of young people in their 20s who live together hope to get married to their partners one day. Their reasons for getting married vary, some are to satisfy their partner’s wishes, and some are to pursue a long and happy marriage.
But have you ever thought about how your wedding choice might affect the quality of your marriage? For example, how much did your engagement ring cost? How many people were invited to your wedding? Did you go on your honeymoon?
These questions may sound trivial, but some scientific studies have found that they are closely related to the duration of marriage and divorce rates. Let’s take a look!
The Value of Engagement Rings For many brides and grooms-to-be, engagement rings are a symbol of their love and an important part of their engagement. Some grooms-to-be spend months trying to find the perfect ring.
In the United States, there is a traditional saying that men should spend two months’ salary on an engagement ring. But will doing this really make your marriage better?
In 2015, a study surveyed 3,000 Americans and found that there was a negative correlation between the value of an engagement ring and the quality of a marriage. That is, the more money spent on an engagement ring, the shorter the duration of the marriage and the higher the likelihood of divorce.
Specifically, men who spent $2,000 to $4,000 on an engagement ring had a 1.3 times higher risk of divorce than men who spent $500 to $2,000 on an engagement ring. People who spent less than $500 on an engagement ring were more likely to get divorced than those who spent $500 to $2,000 on an engagement ring.
This result may surprise you, but there are some possible explanations. On the one hand, spending too much money on a ring may put financial pressure on couples and affect their relationship. On the other hand, spending too little money on a ring may reflect a lack of regard for your marriage or disrespect for your partner.
Of course, this study is only a preliminary exploration of the relationship between the value of an engagement ring and the quality of a marriage, and cannot prove cause and effect. Perhaps, there are other factors, such as personal values, motivation for marriage, wedding expenses, etc., that will also affect the outcome of marriage. Moreover, this study is only for Americans and may not necessarily apply to other countries and cultures.
Therefore, we should not blindly believe in the propaganda of the wedding industry and think that the more you spend, the better your marriage will be. We should choose the appropriate engagement ring based on our actual situation to express our love and commitment.
Size of the wedding Although an expensive wedding does not necessarily lead to a better marriage, there is evidence that a larger wedding may make your marriage happier.
Also in 2015, a study surveyed 3,000 Americans and found a positive correlation between the number of guests at a wedding and the quality of a marriage. That is, the greater the number of guests at a wedding and the longer the marriage, the lower the likelihood of divorce.
This result may confuse you, however, there are some possible explanations. On the one hand, inviting more people to the wedding may mean that couples have more social support, such as friends and family, who can provide help and advice when they encounter problems in the marriage. On the other hand, inviting more people to the wedding may also enhance the couple’s sense of commitment because they are more willing to maintain their credibility and image by publicly announcing their vows in front of more witnesses.
Of course, this study is only a preliminary exploration of the relationship between wedding size and marital quality, and cannot explain cause and effect. Perhaps, there are other factors, such as the couple’s personality, marital satisfaction, wedding expenses, etc., that also affect the outcome of the marriage. Moreover, this study only looked at Americans and does not apply to other countries and cultures.
Therefore, we should not blindly follow the trend and think that the bigger the wedding, the better. We should choose the appropriate wedding size based on our actual situation, invite people we really care about, and share our joy and happiness.
Honeymoon destination In the process of wedding preparations, many couples who are about to get married are looking forward to going on their honeymoon together. They may choose to go to some romantic places, such as Paris, the Bahamas, etc., to enjoy the sweet time of the two of them.
In the United States, almost all couples who choose a traditional wedding go on a honeymoon. This is a smart choice because research shows that going on a honeymoon has a positive correlation with the quality of your marriage. In other words, couples who go on a honeymoon have longer marriages and are less likely to divorce than couples who don’t go on a honeymoon.
This result may please you, however, there are some possible explanations. On the one hand, going on a honeymoon can give couples a wonderful memory and increase their happiness and satisfaction. On the other hand, going on a honeymoon can also give couples more time to understand and communicate with each other, enhancing their sense of intimacy and trust.
Of course, this study is only a preliminary exploration of the relationship between honeymooning and marital quality, and cannot explain cause and effect. Perhaps, there are other factors, such as the couple’s personality, motivation for marriage, honeymoon cost and destination, etc., that also affect the outcome of the marriage. Moreover, this study is only for Americans and may not necessarily apply to other countries and cultures.
Therefore, we should not blindly believe in media propaganda and think that going on a honeymoon can guarantee a happy marriage. We should choose the appropriate honeymoon method according to our actual situation and enjoy our own love and travel.
Other factors In conclusion, we have seen that some wedding choices, such as the value of the engagement ring, the size of the wedding, going on a honeymoon, etc., may affect the quality of the marriage. However, we should not forget that these are only some superficial factors. It is the couples themselves who really determine the quality of marriage.
For example, some studies have found that a couple’s past, especially their communication style, is an important factor in predicting marital success. If couples can express their feelings and needs effectively, understand and respect each other’s perspectives and feelings, and resolve conflicts and disagreements appropriately, then their marriages are more likely to be happy and long-lasting.
In addition, some studies have also found that couples’ decisions, especially their agreements, are also important factors that affect the quality of their marriage. If couples can clarify their expectations and goals before marriage, allocate their roles and responsibilities after marriage, and seek help and support when they encounter problems, then their marriage is more likely to be successful and stable.
Of course, these studies only partially reveal the factors that affect marital quality and cannot cover all possibilities. Perhaps, there are other factors, such as the couple’s interests, values, beliefs, etc., which also have an impact on the quality of marriage. Moreover, most of these studies are based on questionnaires and do not conduct long-term follow-up and observation of couples, so there may be some biases and limitations.
Therefore, we should not blindly believe in the conclusions of scientific research and think that they can determine the quality of our marriage. We should choose a suitable marriage method based on our actual situation, and work hard to manage our marriage so that both ourselves and the other party are happy and satisfied.
Conclusion A wedding is one of the most important moments in life and the highest commitment to love. We all want our marriages to be long-lasting and happy, but this is not an easy thing. We need to make some wise choices when preparing for the wedding, and we also need to make some efforts after the wedding.
This article introduces you to some scientific research findings, hoping to give you some inspiration and help. Of course, these are just some references and suggestions, not laws and rules. The quality of your marriage ultimately depends on you and your partner, and the love and relationship between you.
I wish you happiness!
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