In intimate relationships, we convey love through various methods such as language, behavior, and physical expression. However, emotional communication is far from being distinct from black and white. Different people often use completely different 'love language' to express emotions, and understanding bias and misunderstandings are also arisen. This bias is particularly significant for the personality type of INTJ.
In the MBTI type sixteen personality, INTJ is often called the 'architect' type. They are known for their rationality, independence and goal orientation, but they are often misunderstood as 'indifferent' or 'uncomfortable'. In fact, INTJs do not desire intimacy, but their way of expressing love is often different from the 'romance' in traditional social concepts.
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How INTJ expresses love
The characteristics of INTJ personality type are strong logical thinking, high independence, and poor at showing emotions. Therefore, they do not frequently say “I love you” or express emotionally in their relationships. But if they decide to invest in a relationship, it is usually a sincere and thoughtful choice.
1. Time and Attention: The Scarcest Gift
INTJ people usually love being alone and tend to devote their time to thinking, studying or career. So, when an INTJ is willing to spend precious time on you and listen carefully to your point of view, this is an extremely important 'emotional investment'.
They are not people who will be perfunctory, and they will only be willing to connect deeply with you when you really arouse their interest and make them feel spiritually resonant.
2. Thinking Resonance: Spiritual Romance
What INTJ values most is the fit of wisdom. They like deep, logical, and insightful conversations. Being able to have in-depth discussions with your partner and discuss a complex topic together is an important way for them to feel 'understood' and 'loved'.
They are not interested in shallow chatting, but appreciate deep, inspiring interactions. It can be said that for INTJ, the collision of thoughts is the most intense intimate behavior .
3. Economic priority: Sensitive expression in rationality
INTJs do not like empty promises or emotional expressions, they prefer to express support and love with actions. If you are their partner and are starting a business, studying or working on important projects, INTJ will likely prioritize your needs in terms of resources and even offer support.
In their opinion, this 'investment behavior' is far more sincere and meaningful than emotional confession.
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How INTJ accepts love: If you love them, understand them first
If you want to enter the inner world of INTJ, you cannot use too emotional or traditional 'love method'. They may not like surprises and may even be bothered by “unsolicited goodwill.” They value boundaries and autonomy very much, so when expressing love, avoid infringing on their independent space.
1. Have in-depth communication with them
INTJs are not good at expressing feelings, but they appreciate people who can communicate in depth with themselves. If you can discuss macro trends, technological progress, philosophical issues or life strategies with them in a one-on-one situation, they will feel your emphasis and recognition of them.
Remember: to enter the heart of INTJ, you must first enter their brains.
2. Express recognition and appreciation
Although INTJ looks calm on the outside, he actually desires recognition on the inside. They are proud of their rationality and ability, but this pride is low-key. If you can give accurate and sincere affirmation at critical moments, they will feel deeply touched.
Rather than saying in general, 'You are so smart', it is better to say, 'I appreciate the systematicity and depth you show when analyzing this problem.' This specificity will definitely make INTJ feel that you are truly 'seeing'.
Written at the end: The affectionate protection under the appearance of rationality
INTJs are not unromantic, they are not traditional in their way of expressing love. They are good at building a solid relationship with logic, planning and action, rather than sweet words or daily doting.
Understanding their love language and accepting their rational expressions can lead to a reliable and profound emotional connection.
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