When we ask repeatedly, “What the hell do I like to do?”
In fact, there is often a word hidden behind it:
'I don't seem to like what I do now.'
This article is not about telling you 'what do you really like to do', because no one can give you this answer. What we can do is provide a thinking framework so that you no longer idling when you are confused, but actually start to solve the problem.
Are you looking for an answer or an excuse to escape the problem?
Many people want a 'standard answer' to tell themselves what to do next. But the truth is:
- The more you want standard answers, the easier it is to go in the wrong direction .
- The more you want to rely on others to define yourself, the more likely you are to fall into deeper self-doubt.
This is like the famous saying of Iron Man:
'If you're nothing without the suit, then you shouldn't have it.'
——If you have nothing to do with your armor, you don’t deserve it.
Love is not used to whitewash life, but to withstand separation and choice.
4 Thought Experiments: Do you really like doing this?
These classic questions are not used to 'do questions', but to solve them .
1. If you give you all the results immediately, are you still willing to do this?
- You run to lose 20 pounds.
- If you lose 20 kilograms healthily now, will you continue running?
What this question reveals is: Are you enjoying the process, or are you just wanting the result?
2. If this matter can never be known to others, would you still be willing to do it?
- No one likes, no one envies or recognizes it after doing it.
- Do you still think this is worth doing?
What this reveals is: Do you really like it or are you pleasing others?
3. You like both A and B, but you have to give up one to do the other to the extreme. Which one do you choose?
This question makes you face up to: What are you willing to give up for what you really love?
4. If you were destined to die in 10 years, would you still be willing to do this?
The final test is: Is it worthy of your limited life investment?
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How to truly 'solve questions' instead of 'answer'?
When you see this kind of 'soul-totor' question, don't rush to answer, ask back first:
Is this question itself correct?
- Is it solving the problem or diverting anxiety?
- Is it self-questioning or emotional transfer target?
Can we get around this problem?
- I asked 'What do I like to do' because 'I don't like life now.'
- The real problem may not be 'what to choose to do', but 'how to face dislikes'.
So, the correct question is:
'Why did I lose my enthusiasm for what I am now?'
'Am I delaying change, or am I falling into expecting someone else to save me?'
Like is not the answer, it is a by-product of the process
We often think that 'finding what we like' is the final result, but in fact it is a process of gradually becoming clear in trying .
- Some love is made, not thought of.
- Like is not the pass code, but the reward after long-term exploration, trial and error, adjustment, giving up and then starting again.
Written at the end
Life is not a fill-in-the-blank question, don’t wait for the standard answers. Remember: Don't use asking questions to avoid action.
Every gaze inward, every choice you are willing to try or give up, is making room for your true love.
💬 If you have ever been stuck in the question of 'What the hell should I do', you might as well talk about your own experience in the comment section. Maybe what we are all looking for is not the answer, but the person who is willing to explore with us.
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