Life is a journey. Everyone will experience different scenery, encounter different people and things, and form their own concepts and values. In this complex and ever-changing world, some truths may only be understood through many vicissitudes of life, and some experiences may only be understood through personal experience. Today, I would like to share with you 15 life insights, which may give you some inspiration and thinking.
**1. The disputes over viewpoints and lines are false, only the struggle for power is real. **
This sentence also applies to the Internet. Those who can argue and tear up every day about any trivial matter, the power they fight for is called ‘you all have to listen to me.’ Many times, what we see on the surface is a debate for a certain point of view or concept, but in fact it is a struggle for a certain benefit or status. This struggle exists not only in politics and society, but also online and in the workplace. We should keep a clear mind, not be fooled by appearances, and not get involved easily.
**2. When a point of view or trend of thought is already supported by many people, the fastest and easiest way to gain support from others is to put forward a completely opposite point of view. **
How many people support a point of view, no matter how correct it appears on the surface, there are bound to be as many people who secretly oppose it. Therefore, whoever dares to stand up and speak out will often gain unexpected support. We live in an era of diversity and fragmentation, and it is impossible for any one point of view or trend of thought to be recognized and approved by everyone. On the contrary, it often triggers resentment and refutation from some people. This gives those who dare to challenge the mainstream and common sense an opportunity to attract attention and support by proposing different and even contradictory views. We should maintain an open and tolerant mind and not blindly follow trends or oppose them, nor should we be gullible or deny them.
**3. Practice tells us that no matter how extreme or even idiotic your thoughts and opinions are, there will definitely be people who agree and support them. **
The real difficulty lies in how to make your views accessible to potential supporters and accurately spread them to the people you need to influence. We often lament why some absurd and wrong ideas and opinions are approved and supported by so many people. In fact, this is not surprising, because there will always be some people in this world who agree with your thoughts and opinions, no matter how extreme or stupid they are. The question is, how to find these people, how to make your voice heard, and how to make them your advocates and communicators. This requires you to have certain strategies and skills, such as using social media, online platforms, word-of-mouth marketing, etc. We should maintain the ability to be rational and judgmental, and not be fooled by some seemingly popular and influential ideas and opinions, nor give up our own ideas and opinions easily.
**4. What can make different people quickly form alliances is that in addition to interests and feelings, don’t forget that there is also a common enemy. **
Therefore, in the workplace, whenever you see someone forming a group, you don’t need to conduct in-depth analysis to know that this small group must have one or several common “enemies”. We often see people suddenly become close and form a small group or camp on certain occasions or situations. We may wonder how they came together and what kind of interests or feelings they had. In fact, many times, there is no deep foundation or common goal between them, just because they have one or several common enemies, such as a competitor, a boss, a customer, etc. This kind of friend-enemy relationship is often unstable and temporary. Once the enemy disappears or changes, they may fall apart. We should remain vigilant and cautious and not easily join or fight against such small groups, nor easily create or establish such enemies.
**5. When it comes to economics, a group of people may not be able to do it even if they work for several years; but when it comes to struggle, three or two people can do it like a raging fire in a few days. **
Therefore, don’t be surprised by the ubiquitous struggles in life, and don’t endlessly participate in internal struggles in small circles. When you have that time, it is better to think about how to improve yourself, how to get out of this small circle, and how to make more money. We often lament why in this era of abundant material and advanced technology, there are still so many people fighting over trivial things. In fact, this is not surprising, because running the economy requires many conditions and factors, such as capital, technology, market, policy, etc. To engage in struggle, only a few conditions and factors are required, such as psychology, emotions, words, means, etc. This mentality that it is easier, happier and more exciting to engage in struggle than to engage in economics is often the lowest, most primitive and most difficult to overcome part of human nature. We should maintain a clear and rational mentality and not be swayed by this mentality, nor should we endlessly participate in this struggle.
**6. No job is eternal. The job you have done has been done by countless people before you, and countless people will do it after you. **
Therefore, what matters is not how much work you have done, but whether it can bring you accumulation (including but not limited to accumulating your wealth, professional experience, network resources, background resume, etc.), otherwise no matter how long you work, It’s just standing still. We often regard our work as our identity and the meaning of our existence, think that we are indispensable, or that we are making a contribution to society. In fact, this is all a kind of self-comfort and self-deception, because no job in this world is eternal, and no job can only be done by you. The question is whether you can get something valuable from your work, such as wealth, experience, connections, resume, etc. These things are your real capital and resources, and they can give you more choices and opportunities in the future. We should maintain a clear and objective perspective and not be limited by or lost in our own work.
**7. In the secular world, what we should really pursue is not power or money, but influence. **
Influence is measured on two levels, far-reaching in time and vast in geographical scope. The deeper and wider your influence is, the more power or wealth you can turn it into. When your influence is large enough without resorting to power or wealth, you will achieve immortal fame. We often see that some people have power and money, but they do not necessarily have happiness and respect. On the contrary, it often leads to more trouble and hostility. In fact, this is because power and money are external things, and they cannot represent a person’s true value and status. The question is whether you can influence others through your words, deeds and works, so that others can identify with you, trust you, support you and follow your lead. This kind of influence is the inner thing that makes you respected and welcomed at any time and anywhere. We should maintain the mentality of pursuing and creating, and should not be tempted by power and money, nor be bound by power and money.
**8. Many people do not understand that power is actually difficult to inherit. Its emergence and continuation require specific interpersonal networks and countless conventions, which are often related to specific personal abilities, experiences and even personality charm. Closely related, none of these can be obtained directly through blood ties. **
But wealth can, so most of the descendants of officials are engaged in business. We often see some people gain some power or status by virtue of their family background or relatives. However, this kind of power or status is often unstable and not lasting, because they are not based on their own abilities and contributions, but rely on the recognition and support of others. Once this recognition and support disappear or shift, this power or status can collapse. The question is whether you can accumulate your own wealth and resources through your own efforts and creation, giving yourself more autonomy and choices. This kind of wealth and resources is what truly belongs to you, and they can give you certain protection and advantages in any environment and situation. We should maintain a self-improvement and enterprising mentality, and do not rely on the power and status of others, nor be satisfied with the power and status of others.
**9. If two people who are not very familiar with each other need to stay together until late at night due to chance, it is best to end the conversation early. **
When there is nothing left to talk about daily life, entertainment gossip, etc., and the conversation never ends, sooner or later you will talk about some topics and things that you should not talk about, and then the next day I regretted it so much in the morning.
Don’t leave any practical possibility to ’talking about something simple and talking about something profound’. We often encounter situations where we need to spend a long time with someone, such as business trips, overtime work, travel, etc. In this case, we might chat with the person to pass the time or get to know each other better. However, if we do not pay attention to controlling the scope of time and topics, we may fall into an atmosphere that is too intimate or too sensitive, and thus say or do things that exceed normal boundaries or violate principles. This kind of thing often brings us some trouble or regret. The question is whether you can maintain moderation and proportion, and don’t let yourself get into a situation that is difficult to extricate or difficult to end. This attitude is the most responsible and respectful expression of oneself and the other person. We should maintain a calm and rational attitude and not be swayed by emotions or driven by impulses.
**10. Don’t be quick to talk for a while. If you are sure of something, you can just do it without saying it. If you are not sure of something, after you say it, the variables will be greater and it will be more difficult to grasp. **
We often say some promises or challenges out of impulse or confidence, thinking that this can show our ability or courage. However, this approach often brings more pressure and risk to ourselves, because things do not always turn out the way we want, and it is difficult to take back what is said. The question is whether you can prove your ability or courage through your actions and results, and let others see your strength or courage. This approach is more secure and effective, and it allows you to avoid unnecessary trouble or embarrassment. We should remain humble and cautious, and should not easily say something that is uncertain or unreliable, nor should we easily accept something that is beyond our abilities or principles.
**11. Things can be done, but words cannot be said. Especially when many people impulsively say yes, they are not ready to do things. You have finished speaking, but others have listened. When you have said something that cannot be done, others may just do it without saying anything. **
The so-called city government means that biting dogs do not bark, and murderous knives do not see the light of day. We often say extreme or vicious words out of momentary anger or hatred, thinking that we can hurt or threaten the other person. However, this approach is often counterproductive because the other person may take your words seriously and take more drastic or vicious actions. The question is whether you can use your own strategies and means to deal with or eliminate the opponent so that the opponent cannot predict or defend against your attacks. This approach is more clever and dangerous, and it allows you to achieve maximum results or benefits. We should keep a calm and silent attitude, and should not easily say some extreme or irritating words, nor should we easily expose some fatal or sensitive things.
**12. If you want to see a person quickly and thoroughly, it is best if your status, knowledge, thoughts or experience are above him. **
This is the principle of looking down to recognize people. If you look up at a person, you won’t be able to see through him at all. We often have a wrong or one-sided impression of a person because of some superficial factors, such as his appearance, clothing, speech, behavior, etc. However, these factors do not reflect a person’s true and comprehensive nature, but may be masked or modified by him intentionally or unintentionally. The question is whether you can examine and analyze a person from a higher perspective, such as his motivations, goals, values, beliefs, abilities, behaviors, etc. This perspective allows you to clearly see a person’s strengths and weaknesses, and it also allows you to avoid some misjudgments or traps. We should maintain a confident and transcendent mentality, and do not be fooled by a person’s appearance, nor be bound by a person’s appearance.
**13. The greatest happiness in life is to achieve financial freedom through career success. **
Financial freedom is needed because in a stable social environment, financial freedom also means physical and mental freedom; career success is needed because without the freedom of career and goals, it is often easy for life to fall into meaninglessness and loss of control. . We often attribute happiness simply to some material or emotional satisfaction, such as having enough money, having love and family, having health and safety, etc. However, these satisfactions do not guarantee our true happiness, but may lead us into a state of comfort or dependence. The question is whether you can achieve your own financial freedom through your own career and give yourself more choices and opportunities; whether you can achieve your own career success through your own goals and give yourself more meaning and control. . This kind of freedom is true happiness, it can make you feel happy and satisfied at any time and anywhere. We should maintain the mentality of pursuing and creating, and should not be swayed or restricted by material and emotional things.
**14. What kind of family a person is born into, what kind of education he gets, and what kind of experiences he has have determine the kind of life he will live, and affect his thinking, actions and view of the world most of the time. **
Although life is uneven and varied, there are always traces to follow. Most people’s lives follow a predetermined track like a program that has been written in advance. To escape from the influence of existing conditions often requires extraordinary efforts and even more extraordinary encounters. We often think that our lives are determined by our own choices and efforts, while ignoring some uncontrollable factors, such as family, education, experience, etc. These factors have a profound and lasting impact on us as we grow up, shaping our personalities, interests, abilities, values, etc. These influences further determine our lifestyle, career direction, social status, etc. The question is whether you can realize the impact of these factors on you, whether you can try to change or break through the limitations of these factors, and whether you can find or create some new opportunities and possibilities. This kind of change is real growth, which allows you to have a new vision and experience at any time and anywhere. We should maintain a reflective and innovative mindset and not be bound by or satisfied by existing conditions.
**15. At night, the prefrontal cortex’s ability to control emotions is weakened, and it is easy for people to do and say things that they would not do or say under normal circumstances. **
Therefore, it is best not to make, say, or meet some important decisions, some words that should not be said, and some people that should not be met at night. We often find that we are more emotional or impulsive at night than during the day, such as being more likely to be angry, sad, excited, enthusiastic, etc. This is actually because the prefrontal cortex of our brain, which is the part responsible for logical thinking and behavioral control, will be affected by fatigue and inhibition at night, leading to a decrease in our resistance to emotions and desires. The question is whether you can notice this change, whether you can avoid making some important or sensitive decisions or actions in this state, and whether you can adjust your mental and physiological state in time. This kind of attention is true self-management, which allows you to maintain sanity and balance at any time and anywhere. We should maintain a vigilant and adjusted mentality and not be swayed or driven by our emotions at night.
The above are 15 life insights. I hope you can get some inspiration and gains from them.
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