How is your sexual interest now?

When men and women have a scissors gap in sexual interest, a very interesting situation will arise: most women need to experience more emotional intimacy to develop sexual interest, while men need satisfactory sex to give the other party more emotional intimacy. So we missed it on a fork. When sex starts to do routine like brushing teeth, even routines are missing, when you start calling it ‘paid public food’, when such dialogues happen between you, or your heart repeatedly - ‘I’m not in the mood, so tired.’ ‘Let you take your children like me to see, you will know why I have no sexual interest at all.’ ‘You are kind to me, so I have such an idea.’ ‘I don’t want it now.’ ‘I just don’t want it.’… Then it is very likely that your marriage has entered a state of laziness. Sex therapy expert Michele Weiner-Davis pointed out in ‘Marriage of Sexual Hunger’ that one of every three couples in the United States has a gully of sexual desire - she wants more than him, or he wants more than her. The unsatisfied party feels deeply rejected and ignored, and the other party is not relaxed. The other party’s request brings great pressure to him or her, and accusations, coldness, resentment gradually accumulates into a high wall… She pointed out that in this ‘sexual hunger’ marriage, sexual life is not the only victim, and the intimacy between them is also hurt, and the common future of the couple. Do you think it’s hard to talk about sex? It’s better to do a test, which can answer your questions and keep them confidential, because only you know the results.