Standing in a crowded subway car, you hear the rambling chatter of others. At this moment, you very much wish that you could lie flat on the beach of a distant island country and use the waves to cover up the noise and the restlessness in your heart.
It’s a pity that if you are lying in bed reading this article, you are probably already a ’little lucky’, not to mention the endless sand supporting your body. This irritability has been entangled with you for hundreds of days. In fact, you just want to find inner peace. But who told me to go to work tomorrow? It’s so annoying! No wonder I am impatient as I read this.
If we can only rely on changing the external environment, such as finding a retreat in a mountain or no longer working, then it is really not cost-effective! What’s more, it is precisely because we are surrounded by turmoil and difficulties that inner peace is particularly important. As urbanites, how can we summon our own peaceful and caring voices?
Am I at peace today?
Inner peace is all about what’s inside of you. This real you now is coming through.
——‘The trees are so beautiful’ Serrini
This irritating feeling often comes from the sound of fighting with oneself. You have many, many ‘I want to…, but I can’t…’ thoughts passing through your mind, and gradually you can’t even say ‘I want to…’, only ‘I just can’t do it’ and a series of Self-criticism. Another voice that makes me irritated is the criticism of the outside world, ‘Why does it have to rain at this time?’ and ‘Are these people walking without looking at the road?’ It’s enough to ruin a peaceful morning.
We can imagine that there is a crystal clear lake in our hearts. When we are calm, we can see the corals and small fish at the bottom of the lake. Criticism of ourselves or the outside world is like blowing up the sand and mud at the bottom of the lake, making the water turbid.
Two ways to find inner peace
1. Accept where I come from. We all have some mistakes or regrets that we don’t want to face or hope to reverse. But if we push away our past selves, we will miss the reconciliation with ourselves, or even let go of these. Mistakes and regrets become opportunities for growth.
If the way we interpret the past is fluid, can the past still bind you? The moment of admitting that you are sometimes powerless, that you sometimes have limitations, can be uncomfortable, but it allows you to see the true “me” of your past. And we should also understand that neither recognition nor acceptance can define our future selves.
2. Let go of criticism and control of external objects. Our control over external objects is limited, and when we want to control external objects, we are often controlled by these thoughts instead. When we find ourselves criticizing, for example when we find that there are more people queuing up at a takeaway shop than usual, instead of thinking ‘Why is the clerk so slow?’, we can try to take a deep breath and simply describe our observation, such as: smell The smell, the number of people in line, the clothes these people were wearing, etc.
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