Always restless and unable to calm down? How to find inner peace? How do we find inner peace in our busy urban life? By accepting the past self and letting go of criticism and control of external things, we can move towards inner harmony and tranquility. This article shares simple and practical psychological methods to help you gain inner peace.
Standing in the crowded subway car, you keep rumbling from others coming from your ears. At this moment, you really hope that you can lie flat on the beach of a distant island country, and use waves to overwhelm the noise and the restlessness in your heart.
Unfortunately, if you are lying on the bed while reading this passage, it is probably a big 'little blessing', and you don't expect that the sand that supports your body is the endless sand. This kind of irritability has been entangled with you for hundreds of days, and you actually just want to find inner peace. But who told me to go to work tomorrow is so annoying! No wonder I have no patience after reading this.
If we can only feel calm by changing the external environment, such as finding a deep mountain retreat or stop working, then it is really not a good deal! What's more, it is precisely because of the troubles and difficulties that inner peace seems particularly important. As urbanites, how can we summon our peaceful and caring voices?
Am I calm down today?
Inner peace is all about what's inside of you. This real you now is coming through.
— 'The Trees Are So Beautiful' Serrini
This feeling of irritability often comes from the sound of fighting with yourself. You have many, many thoughts of 'I want..., but I...', passing through your mind, and slowly, even 'I want...' can't be said, leaving only 'I just can't do it' and a series of self-criticisms. Another voice that makes oneself irritated is criticism of the outside world, 'Why does it rain at this time?' and 'Don't these people look at the road when they walk?' are enough to destroy the peaceful morning.
We can imagine that there is a clear lake in our hearts. When we are calm inside, we can see corals and small fish at the bottom of the lake. Criticism of ourselves or the outside world is like shave the sand and mud at the bottom of the lake, making the lake water turbid.
Find two major directions for inner peace
1. Accept where I came from
We all have some mistakes or regrets that we don’t want to face or hope to reverse, but if we push ourselves away, we will miss reconciliation with ourselves, and even let go of the opportunity to turn these mistakes and regrets into a soil for growth.
If the way we interpret the past is fluid, can the past still bind you? It is disturbing to admit that you are sometimes powerless, and accept that you are sometimes restrictive, but it can allow you to see the true 'me' of the past. And we should also understand that neither acknowledge nor acceptance defines the future self.
2. Let go of criticism and control of external things
Our control over external objects is limited, and when we want to control external objects, we are often controlled by these thoughts. When we find ourselves criticizing, for example, when we find that there are more people in the takeaway store than usual, it is better than thinking, 'Why is the clerk so slow?', we can try taking a deep breath and simply describe our observations, such as: the smell, the number of people in line, the clothes these people are wearing, etc.
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Through the above strategies and tests, we can gradually cultivate inner peace. Remember, inner peace is not the only way to stay away from the hustle and bustle, it can also be found in busy life, as long as we can adjust our views on ourselves and the outside world. When you learn to stop being over-criticized and controlled, you will find yourself starting to have more peace and tranquility.
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