Social interaction is an integral part of our lives. Whether it is work, study or entertainment, we all need to communicate and interact with different people. However, social interaction is not always smooth and pleasant. Sometimes we encounter some embarrassing and difficult situations, such as:
- You want someone to do you a favor but don’t know how to ask;
- You want to attract someone’s attention but don’t know how to express it;
- You want to convince someone of your point of view but don’t know how;
- You want to know if someone is looking at you, but don’t know how to confirm;
- You want someone to like you, but you don’t know how…
Do these situations make you feel helpless and frustrated? If so, then you need to know some psychological behavioral hint tips, which can help you to be more confident and efficient in social interactions, so that you will no longer be ‘socially awkward’.
What are psychological behavioral cues? To put it simply, it is to use some implicit and indirect methods to influence the psychology and behavior of others. Suggestion often causes others to act in a certain way unconsciously, or to accept certain opinions or beliefs uncritically.
There are many types and forms of psychological behavioral cues, such as language, body, eyes, voice, etc. This article introduces some psychological behavioral hint tips that are commonly used in life. I hope it will be helpful to everyone.
1. Use fatigue method
Psychologists have found through research that when someone is tired, they are more attracted to what others say, whether it is a statement or a request. Because when people are tired, their intelligence levels also decline, and they think and question less.
So, if you want to ask a tired person to do something, you probably won’t get a clear answer, but it’s likely to be ‘I’ll do it tomorrow’ because they are tired. But they are likely to follow up the next day because people tend to keep their word; it is psychologically natural to keep what they have promised.
For example, if you want your coworker to help you complete a project report, you could talk to him before he leaves work and say, ‘I know you’re tired today, but I really need your help with this report.’ It’s due tomorrow and I can’t finish it by myself. Please help me do part of it.’ If you say this, he may agree to it and actually do it for you the next day.
2. Psychological implications of sight
Sight is one of the most direct ways we communicate with others, and it can convey a lot of information and emotions. We can use the psychological cues of sight to achieve some goals.
For example, if you want to pass through a crowd, you can look in the direction you are going and you will find that the crowd coming from the opposite direction will give way to you. This is because in crowded places, we tend to look into other people’s eyes so that we know which direction someone is walking. So your gaze sends a signal to them: I’m going over there, please make way for me.
For another example, if you want to know if someone is looking at you, you can try yawning. If someone is actually looking at you, they will yawn too, because yawning is highly contagious. This way you can confirm if they are interested in you.
3. Body push and pull suggestion method
The physical push-pull suggestion method is a psychological behavioral suggestion technique used to attract the opposite sex. Its principle is to use the curiosity and uncertainty of the other party to stimulate their interest and pursuit of you.
Specifically, when communicating with the opposite sex, you can lean forward to get closer to him for a while, and move away from him for a while. Her head turned towards him for a while, and looked away for a while. This body language of moving far and near will make the other person have the urge to grab your attention.
For example, if you want to attract a boy’s attention, you can occasionally talk into his ear and gently touch his arm or shoulder while chatting with him. Then suddenly he took a step back and looked away. Doing this will make him think that you are interested in him, but he is not sure whether you really like him. This will arouse his curiosity and pursuit.
4. Selective psychological suggestion
Selective psychological suggestion is a psychological behavioral suggestion technique used to influence other people’s decisions. Its principle is to use other people’s habitual thinking and herd mentality to guide them to make the choice you want.
Specifically, when raising a question or request, do not give the other party too much room for choice, but give two or several options and let the other party choose one among them. Doing this will make the other party feel that they have the initiative and freedom, but in fact they have been hinted and restricted by you.
For example, if you want to drink milk tea, you should say to your companion: ‘Should we drink original flavor or chocolate flavor?’ If you say this, your companion will usually take your psychological hint and choose one of them. , instead of saying: ‘Let’s drink coffee.’ While giving them a choice, it actually restricts their thinking.
5. High goal request method
The high-goal request method is a psychological behavioral suggestion technique used to persuade others to do things. Its principle is to use other people’s guilt and tendency to compromise to achieve one’s own goals.
Specifically, it is to first make a ridiculous or excessive request to others and let others reject you. At this time, most people will feel a certain amount of guilt and feel that they are a little too much or unkind. Then you make a more reasonable or lower request to them, making others feel that you have made a concession and making it easier for them to accept your request.
For example, if you want your friends to go see a movie with you, you can first say to them: ‘I want to go see ‘Avatar 2’ with you. This is my favorite movie. You must go with me.’ I’ll go.’ If you say this, your friends may reject you because they may not like the movie or think it’s too expensive or too far-fetched. Then you say to them: ‘Well, let’s go see ‘Fast and Furious 10’. This movie is also good, and it is very close to us, and the ticket price is cheap.’ In this case, your friend They will feel that you have made a concession and the request is more reasonable, so it will be easier for them to agree to you.
6. Praise suggestion method
The complimentary suggestion method is a psychological behavioral suggestion technique used to increase others’ goodwill and trust in oneself. Its principle is to use other people’s self-esteem and attribution tendencies to improve one’s own image in the eyes of others.
Specifically, when communicating with others, appropriately give others some sincere and appropriate compliments to make others feel happy and proud. Doing this will make others feel valuable and confident in themselves. At the same time, they will also attribute this positive emotion to you and think that you are a kind, honest, and tasteful person. This will increase their goodwill and trust in you.
For example, if you want a girl to like you, you can praise her appearance, temperament, clothing, hairstyle, etc. when chatting with her. But be careful not to praise her excessively or falsely, otherwise she will feel that you are flattering or deceiving her. You can say something specific and true, such as: ‘The clothes you are wearing today are beautiful and suit you very well.’ Or: ‘I like your smile very much, it is warm and sweet.’ If you say this, she will feel Be happy and like you.
The above is an introduction to psychological behavioral hint techniques commonly used in life. I hope it will inspire and help you. Of course, these techniques are not one-size-fits-all, nor are they designed to deceive or manipulate others. We should use them to improve our social skills and relationships, and to respect other people’s wishes and feelings. Only in this way can we truly enjoy the fun and gains of social interaction. thank you all!
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